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Eileen Dougharty's avatar

I've been a flight attendant for 24 years and I had a man ask me if I remembered him. I said I was sorry, he didn't look familiar as I see hundreds of people in a day. He told me he had lost more than 150 lbs over the last few years and that I had been working a flight he was on before he lost the weight. He said "I remember you because you treated me with respect and your co-workers definitely DID NOT". You never know who's going to come back around.

I find people with petty gripes are often the loudest, people who truly have a reason to be upset remain quiet. I am always ready to advocate for anyone dealing with this kind of bullshit. There's no reason to put up with someone being hostile in a shared space, so good for you for shutting it down. Have the kind of day you deserve, INDEED.

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Mikael Wallin's avatar

the highest grade you can get as human is - I made a change - I am not a waste of protein, space and air - I exist … congratulations to the human award :)

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Jenny Rubin's avatar

You really gave this woman so much more grace than she deserved.... proud of u

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Phil Hannum's avatar

A good definition of Grace is that “it is the opposite of what we deserve.” Think : the way the returning Prodigal is treated by his earthly father.

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Mara Gordon, MD's avatar

You rule!!!!

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Annette Silveira's avatar

I hope you have the day you deserve. Perfect!

I’m straight sized and I flew on two Southwest airplanes a couple of weeks ago.

The seats were very uncomfortable and the space between rows was almost non-existent. I got off the flight home very sore.

Not great marketing if you ask me.

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Virginia Sole-Smith's avatar

KATE. Icon. Hero. Love you! And gold star to the flight attendant for having your back.

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Kate Summers's avatar

I will tell you off line some of the petty things she did. Truly INCREDIBLE

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Virginia Sole-Smith's avatar

Yes PLEASE

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Elizabeth Heydary's avatar

I am so proud of you for advocating for yourself! I hate that this happened to you but I was glad to read the flight attendant was supportive.

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Quietwood917's avatar

Kate, you handled that like a boss!! I would like to be friends with you and that lovely attendant. Good on you, sis!

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Emma Copley Eisenberg's avatar

Thank you 🔥

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RebeccaLW's avatar

I’m so glad to hear one of these stories but not the ones you mentioned. I’m so glad sometimes people get support!

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Carmel's avatar

Damn. Good for you. That must have been so hard. Way to use whatever privilege you have! I hope to be that brave if I’m ever in that situation.

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Kristin A. Demoro's avatar

Huzzah! You're my hero ine!!

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maryse's avatar

First of all, the middle seat gets the arm rests. 😜 Good for you! I haven’t been in your situation but I’m ready thanks to you.

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Jamie Taylor's avatar

Way to go, standing up for yourself.

And when people stand up for themselves other people realize they can do the same.

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Kate Summers's avatar

Thank you!

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Caroline Smith's avatar

You are strong, clear-sighted, and beautiful in a shitty shitty world. Love you.

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Kate Summers's avatar

Love youuu. The flight attendant (who was also really petty towards the woman, but that's a story for a different day) made the world seem a lot more beautiful!

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Larry Shell's avatar

I loathe flying. I too am small fat. I took Amtrak Chicago to DC…not a pleasant experience for 18+ hours (different set of issues). I bought a one way return ticket on United or American. Aisle seat. I’m 5’8” and moderately overweight. Getting into and out of the seat was like a puzzle. It was impossible to put the tray table down. SMH. The saving grace? It was only a few hours, not the 18+.

I flew again last summer, but this time Chicago-LA-Auckland-Melbourne and I paid (through the nose) for premium economy. That was physically much more comfortable. But very expensive.

I hate flying.

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ShinyGirl's avatar

You know your value and what you deserve - and you advocated for yourself. Bravo!

I am sorry that some people are shitty. And thankful for the flight attendant. ♥️

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